I just found an incredible post that explores anger from the point of view of Way of Mastery.This way is certainly not easy, yet I have found it leads to true freedom, peace and joy. See what you think. It is a blog from Jayme- here is the link:
http://www.wayofmastery.com/jayem/blog/3456.html
http://www.wayofmastery.com/jayem/blog/3456.html
Hello Everyone,
Susan asked Jayem a question, and we felt his response was something everyone would benefit from hearing, as it is a
universal energy, so we have chosen to share his response here with you all...
Enjoy!
Question: What is the best way to respond or not respond to other people's anger, insults, bullying, angst, and sarcastic
remarks and attitudes?
Hello, Susan, and thank you for asking a question that is one we all share in this world Jeshua reminds us was made in order to PROVE we are separate from God, we are alone, and that Fear is necessary.
I've written that statement purposely to expose WHY anyone expresses anger, insult, bullying, angst, and sarcastic remarks and attitudes!
Thus, the FIRST step when you find yourself before such energies, is to remember WHY they are dong what they are doing. A simple rule of ALL expressions is this: 'What is not Love IS Fear, and nothing else.'
The one before you is literally screaming in Fear, and is crying out for its opposite: Love.
A major shift in our journey occurs when we come to recognize that our OWN fear-based ego meets such expressions with the following: a physical contraction and thus loss of breath, along with a 'bracing' of the muscles. Immediately, the mind JUDGES, for it perceives itself being attacked. It then moves to DEFEND via any number of strategies, including doing the same things!
Ego will believe it is misunderstood, does not deserve this, and perhaps the most cunning, something Jeshua once replied to me when I was complaining about such things: "Beware the great temptation to perceive yourself unfairly treated." WHAT!!!!!???? It was so 'obvious' that I WAS being mistreated!
However, this is NEVER TRUE. Nothing arises by accident, whatsoever, and ALL moments can serve our healing, growth, and awakening IF our commitment is not to defense and 'being right about what is wrong with others', but are devoted to
a) Growth of our own capacity to 'be in the world but not of it', AND to realizing our Essence as Love itself by BEING the presence (and intelligence) of Love in the moment.
The GOAL of all moments is this: PRESENCE. Presence requires that we cultivate a few basic steps, first.
1. Turn TOWARD the fearful one crying out for love, and immediately 'make your home in your breathing', down into the belly.
2. ASK them if they would be so kind as to fully REPEAT their words, because you want to be with them, and truly hear them. (Ego will scream at this suggestion, won't it?)
3. Do your best to repeat back to them exactly their own words, and ask them if you have fully heard them, AND if they feel complete in their sharing, or want to share anything else.
4. THEN ask them this: What is it you truly want, right now, and how do you perceive it will bring you to happiness and peace, for that is my deepest desire for you.
5. Encourage them to take all the time they need to get in touch with this, that you are with them.
They may respond to any of the above, or not! What matters is YOUR growth in meeting Fear, with Presence. IF they do seem to respond, change your language into a joint invitation. In short, shift from 'I, and you' to 'we':
6. Since we are here, right now, together, let's see if we can join to find a real solution. I know we can if we are willing!
By now, something will be very self evident: you will see and know what they are TRULY committed to!
If it is attack in any form, then its time to let them know, calmly, that it is clear they are hurting for some reason, and that remaining committed to it is not something you can join them in, as you have learned that this can never be a solution for them.
Let them know you see the real capacity in them, and are always ready to join devoted to healing, finding real solutions, and growing in real happiness, whenever they may be ready. End by saying, 'thank you' for sharing as you have, for all moments are opportunities for me to grow my own ability to be with you as you are.
And simply move your body in the direction of your true commitment, and what needs your presence, elsewhere. Later, it is wise to reflect on WHO you have called into your life. Those energies are not present by accident! Yes, you may need to do some self-forgiveness work on when those energies were expressed through you as well. You will need to reflect on HOW you have habitually met such energies, and deepen your commitment to your own transformation, and nothing serves that goal better than the very real moments of life that activate our own ego patterns, themselves born of Fear.
Here are a few KEY wonder questions to explore:
What requirement do I keep making of others?
What belief do I carry about how others 'ought' to be?
Might I be placing more emphasis on this, than on my own transformation?
Am I willing to learn increasingly how to be the presence of Love, under ALL conditions? I always remind myself (and
others) of this fundamental truth:
NOTHING IS HAPPENING TO YOU. IT IS HAPPENING FOR YOU. THE WORLD CAN ONLY MEAN WHAT GOD WOULD HAVE IT MEAN AND IT CAN ONLY HAVE THE PURPOSE OF OUR WAKING FORM ILLUSION TO TRUTH, FROM FEAR, TO LOVE.
OF COURSE the world will disturb us, for it was NEVER capable of being our source of Love, though we are all 'guilty' of believing (and insisting) it OUGHT to provide what it cannot ever give. Thus, to see the world truly is to see the uses WE have demanded of it, and of all others, who we have chosen to give us safety, security, approval, and love. And it is NOT their role to do so!
To 'forgive the world' is to see through the requirements WE have placed upon it, to see HOW and WHY the world can ONLY fail us, for the rule of EGO is to 'seek, but never find'. (This loop justifies our judgement, and our guilt, thus keeping us separate from Love and Reality).
Our journey is to stay present with our own Fear, and see what requirements, secret hopes, and demands are fueling it, and to forgive ourselves. Each moment is an opportunity to realize the supreme freedom of Love by NOT responding to the voice of Fear WE have made, and worshipped too long.
Let all beings become your messengers and saviors, by seeing how they trigger the places within us that ARE fearful, needy, demanding, and perhaps unwilling to choose Love and let it teach us of itself. Where can it do that? ONLY in the very midst of where we use to react with fear, projecting all manne of requirements upon others.
Let me end this brief sharing on a question that has such rich depths to show us, with this:
No one in this world is made to love me, keep me safe, nor uphold the image of myself I wish to believe is true. The world is given me as it is that I might discover and learn that Love IS the essence of my only Reality, and that I am free to Be what I truly am, under ALL conditions. Only in the conditions of the world can I ever learn and realize that ONLY Love IS Real, by BEING it.
From this moment forward, I welcome all messengers and saviors, showing me what I truly want no longer, offering me the chance to incarnate my True Self. This alone is what makes the world precious to me: not what I can get from it, but what I can discover I have the capacity to give, to it. For this is the only path Home. Thank you, Lord, for helping me to finally see this great, and essential Truth.
Blessings,
Jayem
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